Monthly Archive: February 2016

Feb 25

holy shit where have the last 6 years gone?


this picture popped up in my FB memories today…. 6 years ago, we got the keys to our dream house, and my mother was dying, so we brought a folding table and folding chairs and we ordered food and had dinner in the vaulted-ceiling dining room. And then she moved out of her house and …

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Feb 21


I never cut my kids grapes, or hot dogs. I figured if they survived the orphanage, the could survive snack time. I let them use sharp knives and thought them to cut up all the veggies for dinner. One is a competitive diver and hurls herself of high cement platforms. I made them learn to …

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Feb 17

I was wrong

I thought I was prepared. I thought I had the benefit of foresight. When we did our first homestudy to adopt from China, the social worker asked me point blank: ‘your husband is already older than the median age for his disease, are you prepared to be a single parent?’ and then she denied our …

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Feb 04

Maybe the Bureaucrats read my blog

Called the Civil Affairs office back this morning, nice lady on the phone confirmed that the problem is that the SP3 form filled out by the doctor states the date of death as January 1. I assured her that he died on the 3rd. I told her she could become my friend on FB if …

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Feb 03

The Story I Had No One to Tell

I read a local food blog last week that said one of our favorite hipster pizza places was closing under suspicious circumstances and that the owner was leaving the employees high and dry. This was the kind of story that J would have been all over: he would have sent me the link at 5 …

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Feb 01

Dear Bureaucrat, did you forget about me?

In the Jewish tradition, 30 days after someone’s death is Shloshim where some of the mourning restrictions are lifted. I will be getting a haircut tomorrow. In the meantime, in the eyes of our dear bureaucrats, I am still in limbo: I have not received a corrected version of the death certificate. Both the notary …

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