Category Archive: widowhood

Jun 02

the non-milestone

5 months. There is no card for ‘your husband/dad died 5 months ago’ 5 months is not a thing. It’s not a milestone number like 6 months or a year or 5 or ¬†10 years. It’s just 5 months. Except this 5 month anniversary comes on the heels of so many end-of-school-year things: a Glee …

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May 10

The Luxury of Time

Nobody had enough time in a day, enough days in a week. I’m not special. Everyone wishes they had more time. Time for hobbies, for friends, to relax. Time for themselves. Time is the thing I miss the most. I’m coming to terms with out new financial situation. But my lack of time is an …

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May 02

3:30 musings

I posted this to my personal FB in the middle of the night, but I think I meant for it to also be a blog post…. Yesterday, we took a road trip and I did whatever I could do keep them both smiling, at the same time. ‘On this day’ last year was the mega …

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Apr 25

Superhero powers, activate

I haven’t shared my Instagram here, but it’s not like I was hiding it. However today it feels very appropriate. This is what I just posted: Wearing my armour for battle: vintage SuperHero necklace from @andreascher probably the first thing I ever bought online and then sold in my store @mortimersnodgrass – reminds me of …

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Apr 10

the downs after the ups

Last week, I got the best medicine of all – a 4-day visit by one of the people I hold dearest, who came here with her own daughter, ¬†with the sole purpose of spending time with us. Everyone had a great time. There was so much giggling and laughter in the house. It really hit …

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Jan 15

My New Uniform

In the olden days, widows had very strict guidelines on how to dress. When they went out into the world, it was clear: they are widows in mourning. During my chemo, I went out of my way to dress up whenever I left the house: cute dresses with boots, scarves on my head, I even …

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Jan 14


I started blogging in 2002, on the now-defunct Diaryland. I blogged through my infertility treatments, and it brought into my life some amazing women that I still count as friends today. It also brought #floorcake, #dirtyunderpantsgirl and so many other words that helped me get through tough times. (we didn’t use hashtags back then, but …

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