Oct 14

My Vagina doesn’t want your discount

Please pardon the serious post today. I got into a twitter fight with a businessman today over a discount offered to women only (the details are not important, I don’t want to give them any attention.)

I said that offering women-only a reduced price to a service was sexist. He told me I was taking political correctness too far. Some of my female friends were equally aghast, several of them shared news articles about it on FB. But a greater number of women were like ‘take the discount, what’s the big deal?’. I was frankly surprised at how many women were ok with taking a discount meant only for women.

The big deal is this: My vagina does not warrant me a discount. I want to get paid the same as a man, I want to have the same right and privileges as a man. So if I accept a discount based on the sole fact that I’m a woman, it’s wrong. Think about it for one second. If the promo had been in reverse and men only were offered a discount on the same service, there would be an UPROAR.

And yes, it extends to all women-only prices: ladies’ nights at bars: sexist. Again, think about it: Mens’ night, 2 for 1 beer…. UPROAR.

Just because it’s a discount and thus an advantage doesn’t mean it’s not sexist. It is the reason why I don’t have the big discount card all my friends have (again, not naming it), because it panders to women only. It’s wrong. It’s the reason why my skin crawls when someone calls me a mom-preneur…. wait, is my husband a dad-preneur? Why is being a woman who is an entrepreneur related to my status as a mother (as a mom actually. because moms are cute, mothers are serious)

So I will continue to vote, and demand equal pay. And in return, I’ll pay full price, thank you very much. Unless you want to offer your discount equally to men and women.

#endrant

(the reason why this blew into a big thing is that I now have to pull out of a cancer fundraiser because it is held at this business and I stand by my principles and won’t go there)

Oct 10

#pinkwashing rant: the NFL

I am Canadian. I do not watch football, except maybe the Grey Cup if the Als are in it and it’s -22 and snowing, then it’s just an excuse to drink beer. I have seen the Superbowl a few times, mostly because it coincided with cruises with took or visits to my friend L in NJ.

I do know, however, that the NFL makes a HUGE show of <supporting> breast cancer in October. Everything turns pink. Don’t even get me started on the irony of an organization to looks away from domestic abuse sponsering events to ‘save the tatas’….. but when you buy your pink NFL jersey, so you know that you are in fact NOT donating a single dollar to research? Not ONE dollar…..

https://sports.vice.com/article/the-nfls-pink-october-does-not-raise-money-for-cancer-research

 

So they donate to ‘awareness’ campaigns but cannot name the organizations or locations that they donate to. An organizatino of that size, with that kind of money, could easily fund an entire research program, a special wing in a hospital, SOMEThING significant, and slap their big ol’ NFL logo on it. I would have NO PROBLEM with that, because if we see where the money is going, that’s fine. But to use this disease as a marketing ploy and not be clear about the amount and the destination of the funds? That is the definition of #pinkwashing

Oct 06

Daily Pink Rant: the toolbelt

My friend and teammate M found this at Canadian Tire this weekend and posted it on my FB wall.

toolbelt

 

My immediate reaction was: OMG I’m going to puke! To which N responded with: here, use this:toolbucket

 

Now, I did the research: they donate 1$ for each tool-belt or bucket sold, which on an 18$ tool-belt is not too bad, but again, I must ask:

  • how many pink tool-belts do you think they sell, so how much money are they donating? 1000? 2500?
  • how insulting and condescending is it to sell a pink tool-belt in the first place? I own A LOT of tools, none of them are pink!
  • If they really want to donate, couldn’t they just say ‘Proud supporter of the Canadian Breast Cancer Fondation’ on the tag and donate for ALL the tool-belts, including the manly ones? (PS, men get breast cancer too…. #shocker )

 

PS: I once tried to explain Canadian Tire to a foreigner: Well, it’s an auto-parts store that obviously sells tires. But also toasters and christmas trees and hockey equipment, you know, all things Canadian. And they give you Canadian Tire money back…..

Oct 05

Pink, well done

so not every company that joins #pinktober is evil.

CIBC is a Canadian Bank. And they have raised over 25 MILLIONS for breast cancer research. I have run it once, with my AMAZING friend D, the quiet one, the one who never takes the spotlight but takes my kids, the one who’s name is never in the posts, but makes sure everyone in my house is fed. D. is amazing beyond words. She runs the CIBC Run for the Cure, she ran it BEFORE I had cancer, she ran it while I had cancer, and she ran it again now that I am cancer free.

My other friend D, the first one who ever babysat SQ, ran in Toronto. I miss her so much. She has FOUR little girls…. that’s a lot of boobs to check!!!

And then, there is Nalie. My sister in cancer-ness. She was diagnosed after I was, but much, much younger. One time, I ran into her in the plastics waiting room. And then she took the awesome Rads team over and turned them into media rock stars (I never did have the balls to take video in rads). While I became the poster-child for The Weekend to End Women’s Cancers, Nalie became the poster-child for the CIBC Run for the Cure.

There are organizations and companies who get it right. I donated to Nalie, and if I haven’t bleed you dry yet, please make sure she gets to 20K. I know what it feels like to reach your fundraising goal!

Oct 03

today’s rant: tweezers

isn’t it nice of Tweezerman to donate 1$ for each of their ‘special edition breast cancer awareness tweezers’ to Komen?

So, here are the 22$ and 40$ special edition, pink of course, tweezers… (for 40$ they are glittery!)

tweezers2 tweezrs1

1$. I mean, if you REALLY need tweezers, I guess it’s ok.  But how many tweezers do you think they sell in a month? and why don’t they donate if you buy silver or red ones?

But tweezers? here is the awareness tie-in: YOU EYEBROWS ARE GOING TO FALL OFF and they may not all come back.

 

Oct 02

the almost-daily pink rant

I’ve decided to try to post every day in October to counter the onslaught of #pinktober.

I took a screen shot rather than link because I don’t want even ONE person to click on this, but seriously, take a look:

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so we’ve got Clinique donating 10$ per bottle of the regular cream with the charms, which is more expensive than the regular cream, so they are charging you for your donation.

Then a 50$ scarf, of which 20% of the proceeds will be donated. Do you know when they say that, the mean 20% of the NET profits, which on a scarf like this is probably 20$. So  4$ donation….

The wine company says they will donate 50% and some of the makeup brands are donating a fixed aboutn (ie 12$ per lipstick). But seriously, just find a woman in need and make her a meal. Donate directly to the hospital. Don<t buy into this, please.

Sep 30

no #pinkwashing here

’twas the last night of September and all through the interwebs,

the snarky cancer-bitches were ready to snark.

 

 

ok, it doesn’t really work…. but tomorrow is October 1st. aka #pinktober  - you can buy a pink KitKat, Swiffer, Chicken Soup, nail polish (full of cancer chemicals), make-up, and my all time favorite, a snow-brush. This is what I have to say:

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Donate or don’t, it’s not really my focus. Just please don’t buy something that’s been pink-ified with a ribbon. Those companies do not give a SHIT if I live or die, they don’t care if their .1% donation lands in the hands of researchers… it’s all marketing. Yes, the organisation that I support takes a cut. You don’t get 1500 people to walk 60 kms in 2 days without some kind of ‘machine’ behind it. But I also know the money gets to the hospital. I know, because my nurse tells me: my Herceptin study was funded by the walk.

Donate, or don’t. But for heaven’s sake, don’t pink-wash my struggle to live.

Sep 15

Forward Motion

Somehow, while cleaning up my old store website, I broke my blog, and thus it was offline for a week. And then, I didn’t know how to fix it. There are many things on the internet I am a whiz at. Cpanels and public_html folders, not so much. Luckily for me, my host, Camelot-Hosting, has the most amazing team and with the snap of a finger, I’m back!

I’m the kind of person who is always waiting for the other shoe to drop, the other next bad thing to happen, because, HELLO, have you seen the way things go in my life? SOMETHING always happens. But right now, in this moment, we are on a bit of a good streak.

Work is going well, I am feeling challenged, in a good way, and I am really enjoying the tasks assigned to me. I’ve also been on a mission to declutter our house and finally get to projects I have been ignoring for years, thus we now have a TV in our living room and I recovered 1 of 2 chairs in there. Knowing me, it will be another 4 years before I get to the second chair!

The best thing though is DiverGirl, aka my youngest. They still can’t explain the ITP – she is very A-typical. But with weekly treatment for the last 6 weeks, she has made a very slow but steady climb from 12,000 to 44,000. We were aiming for 75K to resume diving, but the doctors all agree that she has probably never been that high. So they cleared her to dive from the side of the pool.

Which she took to mean: let’s go on the 5 meter platform and dive head-first. I nodded my approval from the bleachers because 1) there was no way to stop her and 2) it was a trial for a high-level performance team. We then waited anxiously for 4 days to hear. It’s a long story but basically her beloved coach has moved up in rank and is joining this team to train National athletes. He was offered the opportunity to trial 8 of his athletes to transfer with him. Mostly his teenagers in the student-athlete programs. But he invited DiverGirl to try to. And what do you know? She was one of only 2 they picked!!!!

Starting tonight, she is a member of the elite team. It will involve an unbelieavable amount of driving and schlepping 3 to 4 nights a week and we will only get to eat dinner as a family on weekends, something i had SWORN would never happen. But she is awesome, and she deserves to reach for the stars!

Aug 22

On Journeys and Clouds

I called this blog Outrunning the Cloud because I fancied myself a runner, but also, because I felt that for most of my adult life, there has been some sort of cloud over my head. I might have managed at times to get rid of one or the other, but somehow, another one always pops up. I’ve been reflecting a lot about this the last couple of days.

This weekend, I will be walking for the 6th time. The first time, the cloud was the return of my mom’s breast cancer after remission that prompted me to lace up my shoes (that and pretty much Amy forced me to). Last year, it was my own cloud that kept me going, even though my toenails were falling off and I wanted to puke with every step. This year, I am cancer-free. NED. I should be rejoicing and walking on air. And I am, a little bit, because with all of YOUR support, this just happened:

11000

My goal had been 8000$, which is what I had raised last year. I secretly hoped that I could raise 10,000$ for the 10th anniversary, but it does get harder and harder to raise money each year. When I saw it go over 11,000 this morning, I was in an elevator on a construction site at my new job. With me, coincidentally, was a long-time work friend who years ago was involved with The Weekend. I flashed him my phone and his eyes bulged out of his head. He could really appreciate how much effort went into this. So THANK YOU!!!!

Yet, the clouds have not completely parted. My poor kiddo is not responding to the standard treatment for ITP. It’s still too early to move onto more serious options, so we have to keep doing the weekly IV. Her veins are getting tired and blew twice yesterday, so she had to be pricked 6 times to get through the treatment. She will be missing school 1 day a week and can’t keep diving for now. She is PISSED. I get it, I learned to knit with one hand the year I broke my wrist because I couldn’t imagine not knitting for 8 weeks….

So this weekend, I will carry my mother in my heart with every step of the 60 kms. And I’ll be keeping my eye on this new cloud, I’m ready to kick it’s ass too!

 

Aug 12

NED & ME, Forever

I can only think of a few ways to permanently declare your love for someone or something: carve it into a tree, spray paint it on a rock on the side of the highway, or tattoo it on your body.

2 posts ago, I told you about my new friend NED. People keep asking me if I am in remission and I answer ‘No, I’m Ned’.  Today, I went to speak to my tattoo guy (yes, I have a tattoo guy) about doing a chest piece to cover my scars. Not fake 3D nipples, but rather some sort of artsy thing with doodles and patterns and maybe a needle and thread… I don’t know yet, it’s a work in progress. But while I was there, I asked him to stamp me permanently with NED. Like an old school office-stamp, as per A’s suggestion.

 

 

 

NEDpic

 

There you have it. Ned and Me, Forever.

In other news, I have reached my set goal of raising $8000 for the Weekend to End Women’s Cancers in less than 10 days….. but now I’m thinking I can do better, I can do $10,000 for the 10th anniversary…. If you can spare even 10$, every bit helps…. endcancer.ca/goto/champouxv

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